Why do I add "ies" to everything I say, now, when I'm talking to my Little Man? The past few days, I've noticed the excessiveness of it. Such as, "Hi, sweeties!" or "Are you poopies?" or "Are you hungries?" You get the idea. Why is it impossible to talk to a baby in a normal tone with normal words and phrasing? Is it because they are so cute that they render you dumbfounded and leave you with no recourse but to kiss their chubby cheeks over and over?
I have a few words of baby advice. Now, let the record reflect that I'm not a fan at all of people who go through a life experience and come away a self-lauded expert. So, I'm not doing that, since my spine rankles at such a thing. I'm just saying this is what I've found to be true for me. It may be true for you. It may not be. Just sayin'.
Okay, so bringing home baby means you think you know what you're doing, only to find that you don't. That's just how it is. It also means you'll probably expect to be on cloud nine eternally and that the fatigue won't bring you down. Lies. All lies. Remember that you are human and if you find yourself in tears because baby won't calm down and sleep and you've been up for four hours straight while the rest of the world is drooling on their pillows... take a deep breath. You're gonna be okay. Promise.
My main advice is this: Don't start telling your baby, "You can't possibly be _____!" (hungry, dirty again, etc.) Because you know what? He/she probably is. I don't know how many times I've told Joel, "You can't be hungry (hungries) again!" only to offer him his bottle and have him go mad, as though I've never fed him in his entire 5+ week existence. Even today I said, "You can't be stinky (stinkies) again!" only to have his continued fussing lead me back to the changing table. And whatdoyouknow. A little surprise for mommy. Sure, it'd been a whole 10 minutes (if that) since his last "gift" but so what? He's a baby. He does what he wants, when he wants. The sooner you adjust and realize that, the better you'll all feel. I don't know how many times I've prolonged nap times or feedings simply because I try to solve every problem but the one that actually is the issue... all because I think, "He can't possibly be ____ again!"
So, there's your baby advice for the day.
Now, for some Mom advice (I'm a vat of knowledge today!):
You've probably heard, "Sleep when they sleep!" which is true. You should rest when you can. However, you shouldn't always rest every time that you can, in my humble opinion. For one, you become desperate for their nap times - not for their sake, but for yours - because you are so hung up on falling asleep. Which makes sense, because you've never been so exhausted in your entire life, but still. If you sleep every time they do, you will never accomplish anything. Because, once you're awake, they are awake and are demanding food, diapers, cuddles, etc. So, where do you fit in showers, cooking, laundry and Facebook?! (Ha!)
Your body eventually adapts to the new sleep(less) schedule and I'm telling you, girlfriend, a hot shower or some uninterrupted emailing or blogging time have done more for my psyche than any nap. It's also my belief that the more you sleep, the more likely you are to be depressed, emotional, etc. Maybe that's just me, but there you have it. I think you need to do as many normal activities as you can, when you can.
There. Check back later... I'm sure I'll have many more pearls of wisdom to bestow on you! And with that, I'm off to take advantage of the time that Joely-Poly is giving me by (finally) settling into a nice little morning nap...
Have a blessed day! Baby or no baby... take advantage of the time you're given.